Thursday, July 24, 2008

What no one wants to hear.


Hi there, I hoped you liked that photo, because it's all downhill from here. I don't want to write much personal stuff here anymore because, honestly, that tends to get less response than anything else. Or I don't check to see what people said (I still haven't for my March 1, 2008 post), or the guy I was dating at the time leaves a weird, somewhat snide comment on a terribly personal post and hasn't commented since, or...And although I don't expect my readers to be my counselors, or even to recommend one to me (odd that two people in my life say I need to "see someone" nearly every time I talk to them, but no one else seems to think anything's wrong), it still depresses me to get little response to that, so I try to spare you. I don't want to say much about not having a job, a roommate, or a date/boyfriend/whatever, because though I definitely need the first two, and the third would be nice, I've barely been doing anything acquire any of those. Just running away from my problems with trips to decaying cities, mostly. So, then, a prime example of why I don't write too much that's personal, or do a "here's what I did today" blog.

Thursday I woke up and my right leg (the injured one) hurt, but less because I'd biked 20 miles the day before, more because I didn't clear the piles of vacation stuff taking up half the futon off the futon before I went to sleep. I made what were possibly the greatest pancakes (fresh blackberries!) in the history of the universe, oh, they'll be on Flickr. And I should have known that'd be the only happy moment of the day.

Then somehow I wound up less motivated/more obsessed with checking everything online than usual, on possibly the deadest Flickr day I've ever encountered, and didn't take a shower and get out of the house till after 4 pm. I thought not getting outside on beautiful days till 2 pm was bad. It was 4:30 pm.

Then I took a bike ride. It was part of one of my summer projects, taking a particular street. It'll have its own entry. So will my triumphant first bike ride in 2 months after a million obstacles (flat tire, stolen wheel, sprained ankle). I posted a photo on Flickr about it and that's what I kept checking, to almost no response (dead day, I said)...biking again is about the only happy thing that's happened to me all summer. But anyway, the ride was through a very run-down area. Which I'm used to. I got a few good photos. A couple drivers said something to me but I'm not sure what, since I was listening to NPR at the time. Possibly just generic bike-related harrassment.

Then I biked along Cicero Ave., plenty of interesting stuff there including the now-fenced-off abandoned Brach's factory and a plethora of ghost signs. More photos. I kept thinking about a bike ride on Cicero last year and the car with two guys and the bottle that was thrown near me. Not AT me, I think, because they didn't seem to look at or say anything to me, but the fact still remains that a full-size glass bottle came within a foot or two or me.

Then I stopped at Walgreen's. I don't care to discuss my financial situation here, but I'll just say I'm not as broke as I've been the past few days, when I carried around dimes and quarters from a coin jar because that's about all the money I had. I almost didn't put my helmet back on but then I did, even though I was going to take the sidewalk for a while (I know, I know, bad, but a traffic guard was killed across from the Wal-Mart I was biking past).

Then one of those weird incidents where I got annoyed at a car who'd stopped for me, after I stopped for them. I pulled my bike up next to a lightpole to cool off and reflect on why I'm a weirdo who always gets angry at drivers who stop for me after I've stopped for them. Seriously, I hate it--I've already interrupted my ride to let YOU go, just freaking turn already!

Then I got hit head-on by a cyclist barreling through the underpass. If only I'd just kept going when the car let me...but no. It wasn't too bad. He was apologetic, said sorry, his brakes didn't work. But I screamed "THAT'S WHY YOU ALWAYS F***** GO SLOWLY THROUGH A TUNNEL! JESUS CHRIST! I JUST SPRAINED MY ANKLE A MONTH AGO!" and took off.

Then I felt bad for having been angry, even though I think he needed to learn to slow down in tunnels/underpasses, as I always do, because I'm terrified of hitting a pedestrian or cyclist. I took photos of my scraped leg but won't post them because my legs look too fat in photos, even though I've lost weight from being broke and depressed. (Um, yay?)

Then I got home. Someone had sort of invited me to something tonight but never called. I gave up on that early. I thought of a nice bike trip I could take to Wicker Park tonight--vegan fast food, browsing city/architecture books at Myopic, booze from 7-11--but couldn't do it. I thought of going to the nearby liquor store and getting a shake at the nearby taqueria. But I felt too depressed to go to the liquor store. Yes, I did. But eventually I prepared to leave.

Then the phone rang and it was my parents. I faced a terrible choice. I knew if I picked up I'd start crying. I knew if I didn't, it'd keep ringing because my machine is full and I'd get another "what's wrong with your phone?" from my mom when I did eventually talk to her. For months I've been getting student loan/collection agency calls, often 5 or 10 or 20 a day, every day but holidays, for "Kristin [my last name]," and sometimes (frequently recently) "Jason Donahue." Even though I've had my phone number for nearly 12 years, and I have no idea who these people are. I get so sick of all the messages, I keep letting my answering machine fill up. I didn't pick up.

Then in the hallway, my neighbor who'd fixed my bike tube asked how the bike was. I said great but I need to put air in the tire. Then my neighbor, who was happy to help--I mean, REALLY seemed enthusiastic about it, and came up and knocked on my door the morning after he fixed it--said "Well, next time you should go to a bike shop. That was a lot of work. I'm not your father." Etc. etc. in a weirdly menacing tone. (If there's one bright spot to this post, besides the BEST PANCAKES EVER, it's that I'm not as moody and volatile as this guy, not at all.)

Then at the liquor store I started crying. I bought beer, got a coconut shake at the taqueria, and went home to ill-advised emails and blogging. Oh, I haven't even mentioned the incident in Detroit Saturday--I told someone something "awful" happened and he didn't ask what. And that my Tiger Stadium photos hardly turned out (but I'm still glad I went). And that I went to Pitchfork and only talked to a couple people and missed a bunch of Flickr people who were there that I really wanted to meet, or meet again. And that when I was out of town, elsewhere on the Internet I was called "nuts" (for my solo abandoned building exploring/bad-neighborhood-going) and it was said something bad would happen to me someday (worse than the sprained ankle?) and though I didn't take it TOO seriously, it still hurts that no one defended me and no one apologized, so I can only assume this is what a lot of people think. Uh, I've said enough...and not a word about the painful situation the past few months I don't talk about here, just keep bottling it up, because I'm far too nice to risk saying anything that would hurt anyone else, and I'm embarrassed at how much the whole thing has hurt me...

Then
"Now I sit down on the sofa and I watch the evening news
There's a half a dozen tragedies from which to pick and choose
The baby that was missing was found in a ditch today
And there's bombs a flyin' and people dyin' not so far away*
I'll take a beer from the 'frigerator and go sit out in the yard**
And with a cold one in my hand, I'm gonna bite down and swallow hard
Because I'm older now and I've got no time to cry***"

If you can identify the song that's from, well, as they say with the political trivia bit on Talk of the Nation, you win the no-prize. It's always a BAD sign when I dig that tape out of my music collection.

*When I watch the news, it's often people a mile or two from me. And people within a few blocks of some of the abandoned places I like to visit. Because I'm nuts, remember?
**I'd do that (go out on the deck, there's no yard), if I wasn't afraid of my neighbors and/or annoyed by their cigarette smoking.
***Some of us have far too much time.

Oh, right, the photos. Taken July 1, 2008, Belmont & Central area, Chicago, one of the very few intersections where all four beautiful old corner buildings are still standing, though I haven't included photos of all of them. I actually went that day because I thought there'd be lots of great terrazzo entryways. I saw four, but nothing too exciting. Not as many as I expected. Jack Robbins (a men's clothing store) had a terrific neon sign that got covered up by a banner for a new store, which has since closed. That was too depressing to post, but my writing apparently isn't. The area's worth a visit for the buildings and the "vintage" Walgreens and the huge relatively-new multi-ethnic grocery.

6 comments:

Amy said...

Thanks for sharing what you have been doing...interesting stuff

Winters said...

Congrats on your first bike ride in over 2 months. As for the guy that helped with your bike, that is just plan weird what he did. Wait way is the guy that hit you riding his bike with out brakes, that seems sort of stupid. And since you posted it I just have to ask, what awful thing happened? I certainly hope your having a better day today.

-JP-

Eric Allix Rogers said...

Well, at least you go *do* things to avoid your problems. When I'm not doing well, I just never leave my apartment. Which has been the case recently, for no reason that I can discern. I'm hopefully on the upswing though.

I wonder if depression is contagious via blog? It does seem to be going around my circle of blogging acquaintances lately.

Jennifer said...

Maybe it's viral.

Jason David said...

Keep your head up, girl. City living isn't always easy and sometimes, it's really fucking tough. Deep breaths, deep breaths...

Didi said...

You've been down Belmont. I love biking down that way. I have a few photos of the old Jack Robbins too and some of these buildings. Every time I go down there I get really excited because I always find something new.